“To be shamed is to be told that you are anything less
than the amazing being you actually are.”
Healing Through Shame to WAKE UP the LOVE has the power to transform the shaming ideas you have about yourself into deep compassionate love and admiration for who you are. In this inspirational book, Cheryl Bailey shares parts of her own healing journey, describing the depths of despair she lived with in the past, from believing that she was unwanted, worthless, not good enough, and unlovable. Cheryl describes her inability to even breathe freely because she was afraid to take up space that she thought someone else may have wanted.
Deprived of an innocent childhood, Cheryl’s inability to breathe into the fullness of life developed as a result of believing someone else’s hateful ideas about who she was and about what was expected from her in the world. These ideas were embedded into her very cells from an early age.
Shame attacks the very essence of our being with humiliation and cruelty.
The self-hatred that shame generates literally becomes lodged in our hearts and our belief systems. Through her own work, Cheryl discovered that when you understand the raw cruelty that is inherent to shame, you give yourself the freedom to see who you are from a much clearer and kinder perspective. You can soften the harsh edges you developed from believing hateful things about yourself and begin to accept who you truly are, with compassion, intrigue, and delight. Only then can you awaken your inner desires, honor your vulnerabilities, and heal your heartbreaks.
Changing our Perception of Shame
Cheryl invites you to transform your self-hatred into self-love by first understanding that shame is directly connected to what the shamer expects and believes regarding how people should or shouldn’t experience the world. The shamer uses cruelty as power to manipulate other people into conforming to the shamer’s “acceptable rules of engagement” in the world. When you understand this, you also understand that shame is never about the person being shamed. It is always connected to the beliefs of the shaming person.
To heal you must choose to move away from shaming situations and commit to making choices that support your well-being, peace, and happiness. As you move away from shaming situations and you develop a practice of honestly identifying and accepting your needs, without judgment or coercion, you open yourself up to a realm of possible ways that those needs can be lovingly met. With such awareness, you are continually introduced to aspects of yourself that can amaze and inspire you. You then have the opportunity to fall in love with who you are and to create a life that is full of love and appreciation.
Healing with Ancient and Sacred Wisdom
In this heart-focused and compassionate book, Cheryl walks us through this healing process by sharing the sacred and ancient wisdom that continues to support her through attacks of external and internalized shame. She introduces techniques and tools that will help you see yourself and your interactions in the world from a loving perspective rather than from a mindset induced by shame. As you heal the pain and anger caused by shame, you are called on to reconnect to your body and listen to its wisdom to illuminate your core truths.
Healing Through Shame to WAKE UP the LOVE urges you to fully embrace the fact that you deserve to be treated with compassion, kindness, and respect at all times and it encourages you to develop a practice of treating yourself in these loving ways. Cheryl believes that when we make the commitment to love and cherish our Divinely-human state of being, our world is forever changed. We are transformed by our own deep, and continually growing, sense of gratitude for who we truly are.